How to increase motivation about being marriedAlthough it may seem obvious, before you get married you need to want to be married. Then, once you're married, you need to want to stay married for it to work. However, it's not as simple as this; all of the reasons for wanting marriage, then attaining it and keeping it, are influenced by many factors. The most important of these are obviously your partner to begin with; then the way you feel; and finally, your friends and family can have an influence over these decisions too.
The first and most obvious reason that anyone gets married is because they want to commit to their partner. This is possibly the strongest motivation of all - by wanting to be with the
one you love forever, it shows the strength of your feelings for that person, and when you have that kind of emotion involved, it will motivate you to do anything. And it's the smallest of things that can make you feel this way too - maybe one day it's just you realising that you like the way your partner smiles at you, and that tiny gesture can lead to something so wonderful. Even just the way they look at you, or seem to bring a positive vibe to everything around you, can be a strong motivation to wanting to marry that person.
The feelings that this kind of love emits are the second strongest reason that motivates people like you and me to get married. Since they have such a strong impact on how you look on life, it can heighten your senses. You will become more attuned to sensing if something feels right or not, and be able to make changes to sort it if it's not. However, this can often have a flip side; the more attuned you get, often the less patient you can be to sort things out. Don't let this put you off; this is a natural process that everyone in love goes through. And love is the most powerful motivation of all, since it's love that not only makes you want to get married in the first place, but also to see through any bad patches you have throughout the marriage. The motivation to stay and work things out, as opposed to walking away, is a strength that love and marriage brings to you.
Often, our friends and family will influence our decisions on the important things in life. Although this can be fine in theory, in practice the results can vary wildly. Since we put so much stock into the advice of friends and family when we are growing up, it tends to motivate us towards one point of view. However, this may not be the correct one - just because your friend thinks someone is wrong for you doesn't necessarily mean that they are. I'm sure you don't always agree with your friend or family member's choice of partner, but that doesn't mean you should motivate them to split up; instead, just be there if things go wrong.
Although these are the main reasons that motivate someone to get married, they are not the only ones, yet they are probably the most important. And they need to be; marriage is not something you should enter into lightly. It's a commitment that requires two people to make it successful. It also needs you to be motivated into making the right decision, since there are so many consequences to deal with if it doesn't work out. Therefore, if you feel you need to motivate yourself TOO much, then maybe the reasons for getting married aren't strong enough in the first place, and you should realise that before going further. |
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